Our communication is not deep enough the environments aren't safe enough. They fear showing our real selves to people and that isn't our own fault.
Most conversations last 3 sentences
"Hi mate you alright?"
"Yeah, You?"
"Yeah"
Now does that seem enough to you?
To me its no wonder people struggle this has no meaning its auto response and the more we do this the worst we will actually get at communicating.
There is a cascade of terrible things that happen with this
Our ability to show emotion
Our confidence
Our authentic self
All is abandoned and without those things in a conversation there is no connection. An absolute for human beings.
What starts to happen instead is that they communicate virtually, posting and sharing what we think others will find cool and exciting, what we think they may enjoy. Because deep down, in the moment, they aren't enjoying it; they definitely aren't truly experiencing it. I'm not saying don't capture it as a memory; I'm talking about the automatic response to show everyone else, just like the three-sentence conversation.
ITS SUPERFICIAL!
Then they can't talk real to people that like this stuff because those really aren't they people and they move further and further away from being safe to communicate openly especially in a tough time or experience.
Instead we blame people for not talking and make it their fault this is a fault we collectively hold and something i now hope you are aware of. Get deeper with your conversations, get honest and never hold back emotion.
Those 3 sentence conversations can soon turn into hours and you'll still be at the surface.
I'd love to know your thought's comment below
The younger generation really struggle with communication these days. We see it at work, people happy to email and text, but ask someone to pick up a phone or meet someone and they look so uncomfortable. The same people are happy revealing their life on social media but lack the skills to actually talk to people about real life.